Pro-Life Arguments: let’s take religion out of it

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I’m 100% positive that this post is not going to provide some ground-breaking argument that has not already been used. Do not be deceived by the title above: my stance on abortion is deeply affected by my Christian faith. Abortion is, in fact, murder, and the Bible tells me that murder is wrong. Ending a human life out of convenience is absolutely against my religion.

However, my point in this post is to provide Pro-Life Christians with arguments to use in the face of opposition. Most pro-choice people are not going to accept arguments that include your “beliefs”. They have different beliefs than you, maybe a different religion, or lack of one, or whatever so they have no reason to care what your “beliefs” or religion says. For example, you can say, “well the Bible says that murder is wrong” and then they could say, “well I don’t believe in your Bible”. And then the argument is done. I want to start with the most common arguments in favor of abortion, and find the fault in them. I understand that the issues and motives associated with abortion goes much deeper, but I cannot fit all of that into one blog post, obviously 🙂

Let’s begin with the most basic argument:

The fetus is not a living thing, therefore abortion is not murder.

In the beginning chapters of the majority of biology classes, we learn the seven characteristics of a living thing, which include:

  1. Made of cells
  2. Different levels of organization
  3. Obtain and use energy
  4. Grow and develop
  5. Reproduce
  6. Respond to environment
  7. Adapt to environment

You can check off all of these criteria for a human embryo. Embryos are obviously made up of cells, and from the moment a sperm and egg meet each other, cells rapidly start reproducing and specializing. It takes energy for the fetus to grow, and it also develops a nervous system, which allows it to respond and adapt to stimuli. From the moment of conception, an embryo becomes a living thing.

Abortion is a better option than putting unwanted children into a broken foster care/ adoption system.

First of all, our country’s accommodations for orphaned or unwanted children can be pitiful. I understand the facts. I understand the realities (and sometimes horrors) of a child being placed in the foster care system. It needs to be fixed. It does. I cannot see how that child is better off being murdered than being given a chance. That’s expecting failure from a person that you know nothing about. That’s expecting that child to live a miserable, meaningless, hopeless life- so far to the point of the child being better off dead. I know people who grew up in an orphanage or foster care homes, and they lived the exact opposite of a meaningless life. We have no idea the happiness or success that child might find in their life, despite the fact that they might be an orphan or in foster care. How can you tell pro-lifers that we are wrong for wanting to give the child a chance? A human has absolutely no right to decide whether or not another human gets to live, no matter what they’re expecting from their future.

*I found the following reasons in favor of abortion from BBC.

A woman has the right to decide what happens to her body.

(Disregarding my Christian values for the sake of this argument) Yes, yes, YES the woman has the right to do whatever the absolute heck she wants to do with her body.

However, fetus = a different body.

This argument has actually progressed into *most* pro-choicers admitting that the fetus is a separate being from the mother. The argument has actually evolved into- the woman has power over her own body, and the fetus exists within the woman’s body, so she has the right to decide whether or not the fetus remains in her body. This string of logic acts as if the fetus is a foreign object or something, and not a living thing with rights of its own. Also, it’s not like the fetus remains in the body forever. It comes out after nine months, and even then the mother is not obligated to keep it. Every human being has the right to their own body, so why wouldn’t the fetus have the right to his/her own body? The fetus is not part of the woman’s body, it is temporarily connected to the woman’s body. And as we’ve already established, the fetus is a human life, therefore it has rights too. The fetus is a unique and separate individual from the mother, it has rights of its own, and if the mother simply does not want the responsibility of a child, there are options other than abortion.

Women need access to abortions in order to have the same freedoms as men.

This argument implies that since men do not have the responsibility to carry a child, women should not have the responsibility either. Which, in my opinion, is absolutely insane. The female is the one who is able to carry out reproduction. In nature– every female animal carries out procreation, not the male. It’s part of your biology. It is, in fact, a privilege that women have to be able to ensure the continuance of the human race. I cannot see how having the ability to bear a child prevents me from having the freedoms that a man has. How does having access to abortions provide me the same “freedoms” as men? I already have the same freedom as men.

Since the year 1920 and the passing of the 19th Amendment, women have had the right to vote.

Since the year 1963, and the passing of the Equal Pay Act, it has been illegal to pay me less because I’m a woman.

Women have been successfully obtaining college degrees since the year 1840 when Catherine Brewer became the first woman to earn a bachelor’s degree.

Part of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 makes it illegal for employers to discriminate against me because I am a woman.

Do not tell me that I am any less “free” than a man because men do not have to bear a child. (If you want to complain about women being “oppressed” in America, please go to talk to a girl growing up in the Middle East under Sharia law, pre-teen girls being forced into arranged marriages, or a woman sold into sex slavery. Oppression of women does not exist in America)

Here is a solution to for the unwanted child: Use birth control. If that fails, and she still chooses not to keep the child, use adoption. There are plenty of women who are desperate for a child and can’t have one, and they will absolutely be more than happy to take an unwanted baby. The fact that there was once a fetus inside a woman’s body does not prevent her from exercising the same rights as men.

Women need free access to abortion in order to achieve full political, social, and economic equality with men.

By saying that because of the fact a woman has born a child, she is incapable of becoming as successful as a man, pro-choicers are the one victimizing women. They are implying that a woman’s biology makes her less equal, less capable, and less respectable.

Men are not biologically able to bear a child. If a woman wants to use abortion as the argument that it provides a female with the same “freedoms” as a man, then she is actually complaining about the fact that she was born as a woman with the ability to carry a child, instead of being born a man. A woman could have a baby, even decide to keep the baby, and she could still be just as successful financially and socially as a man. If the woman decides that having a baby would prevent her from being equal with a man, abortion is not the only option. Logically, abortion does nothing to secure a female’s political, social, and economic success or equality with a man.

It comes down to modern feminists needing to find ways to make women feel victimized. Raising a baby, or even simply birthing the baby, does not make a woman any less than a man. I don’t feel oppressed because I was born a woman, and therefore have the ability to bear a child. I am not envious of men because they don’t have the responsibility to bear children. Abortion at its simplest is just selfish. And (a lot of) modern feminists have the amazing ability to ignore their conscience and twist the pro- choice reasoning into a completely illogical argument. I am proud of being a woman. I am proud of the fact that I am part of the half of our species that has the privilege to carry a human life. That’s empowering to me. I do not feel oppressed because I may birth a child one day, I feel honored.

This goes much farther into the feminist argument, and that may be another post for another time. In the meantime, please enjoy this blog post about the “victim mentality” of most modern feminists that I found absolutely enlightening. This victim mentality is the roots of the pro-choice argument.

Yes, I Am Equal. I’m Sorry You’re Offended By Us Women Who Lack A Victim Mindset.

Abortion is not the only solution (and should not be a solution at all) to dealing with an unwanted baby. A woman can become pregnant, choose to give up the baby in adoption, and still succeed in the same political, social, and economic realms as men. Murder is never a solution to anything. There are always other options.

 

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to the girl who feels lost, and like God is silent

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Dear girl who feels lost,

First of all, I know. I know the feeling. Maybe you’re a junior/senior in high school and you are being bombarded with questions of where you’re going to college, what you’re going to major in, whether or not you’ll continue to play sports, dance, cheer, join a sorority, or whatever other questions they like to throw at you (because don’t you know, at 18 years of age, you’re supposed to already have all this figured out??). Maybe you’re a freshman/sophomore in college (or junior/senior) and you still haven’t declared a major or found anything that really sounds appealing to pursue for the rest of your life.

Maybe you’re the “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” and all your friends are married or about to be, and you don’t even have a boyfriend. You may be at a crossroads about to make some major decision, or you didn’t get into the program that you needed to, so now you have to completely rearrange your plan. Maybe the man you were supposed to marry didn’t come through for you, and now your life seems to be at a stand-still.

And you’re sitting there, crying at God, pleading for Him to give you some divine revelation about what the heck you are supposed to be doing with your life, and: silence.

Why isn’t He talking? Everyone else has gotten “their plan” from Him, why hasn’t He given you yours yet?

I have read many, many blog posts and devotions about determining God’s will. I have wrestled with this concept and I have sat there in the same spot as you and asked why, why, why? Why isn’t God telling me anything? But it seems like the more and more you try to figure out how to figure it out, the more and more lost you feel. Does God have a specific person in mind for you? Does He have a chosen career path for you? How do you know? How does God communicate His purpose for our lives to us?

Dear friend, let me tell you something that may seem discouraging at first glance: God may or may not come to you and tell you specifically and explicitly exactly what He wants you to do, what career to pursue, who to marry, where to take a job, where to join a church, how many kids to have or whatever else you could possibly be worrying about.

God’s set of instructions to us are found in a book called…

wait for it…

The Holy Bible.

*applause and cheers*

It is completely within God’s power, and at times within His pleasure, to come to us individually and give us more specific instructions. For example, if you are called to be a pastor, or missionary, or some other form of ministry. Those kinds of things are specific duties for specific people called by God. But, for the most the part, I believe that we should not expect God to do that. God can absolutely do it, and He does sometimes. But in addition to that possibility, we already have unquestionably all the guidance and instruction we need per the Holy Bible.

Hint: that’s why God gave the Bible to His children in the first place.

The Bible is given by inspiration of God, and is a good and perfect reference for teaching, correcting, rebuking, and instructing. And by all those things we receive through the Bible, we can make better decisions about our life, and we will be better equipped to be servants of the Lord. (Find this in 2 Timothy 3:16-17)

I was told one time to not think of God’s will as a singular pathway that I am restricted to. I should view God’s will as a large passageway with many various pathways inside of it. They all lead to different lives, but at the same time, they all work within God’s will.

The Bible does NOT tell me: Betsy, you need to marry John Smith.

The Bible tells me: Betsy, marry someone who is a man of God; someone that is faithful and loving, patient, humble, and gentle. Someone that will be a leader and provider to your family and someone who seeks after God.

The Bible does NOT tell me: Betsy, you need to be an English teacher.

The Bible does tell me: Betsy, use the skills and abilities God has given you to bring honor and glory to His name.

If whatever you choose to do in life can be used to demonstrate God’s grace and glory through the skills and talents He’s given you, I sincerely believe that thing can totally be within God’s will for your life.

I suggest reading from the beginning of chapter 1, but Ephesians 1:11-12 says, “In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will, so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of his glory.

When God made us His children, the purpose He established in us was to live “to the praise of His glory”. Our main goal while we live here on Earth is to praise God through any and everything we do. God’s ultimate will for your life is to praise Him. So, I have to believe that anything you do that can be used to praise Him, is acceptable in His will.

That thought is soooooo comforting, isn’t it? You are not bound to one specific person, career, etc… If you were, what would the consequences be if you chose wrong? How scary would it be to live like that?

That’s how a lot of us live. We try so hard to complicate God’s will. We want some divine revelation from God Himself. And honestly, dear friends, that is somewhat of an arrogant wish- that we should expect God to give us a “better” explanation than the thoroughly perfect instruction guide already provided for us.

It’s kinda like God’s thinking: ok, I’ve already given you this detailed instruction guide filled to the brim with perfectly applicable wisdom and knowledge, what more do you need??

How to Make Sure a Decision is Within God’s Will:

1. It is cohesive with teachings found in the Bible.

The End

If you feel led to something or someone, and a part of that something or someone is at odds with things you find in God’s Word, you can be 100% sure that this something or someone is not in God’s will for you. Sin will never be a part of God’s purpose for your life.

So to you who feel lost, determining God’s will for your life should not be an anxiety-inducing thought. There was a time in my life where I would sit for days and wrestle with figuring out what God is calling me to do. And each time the wrestling began, it was like, alright here we go again, bring on the stress and exhaustion. Did I think to look to the Bible? No. But I don’t believe it should be that way. Seeking God’s will should be comforting and encouraging. Mainly, because His will for you is perfect and good, and living according to our complete instruction manual makes for a godly and joyful life.

God allows you freedom to make decisions. And the most comforting thing about it is, those decisions are automatically going to be within God’s purpose for your life as long as they let you live “to the praise of His glory”.

I am in no way limiting God. He can open doors for you, He can provide opportunities, He can bring people in and out of your life, and He can place a desire on your heart, guide the course of your days, or send you a divine revelation however and whenever He chooses. But in general, if you find yourself at a point where you are afraid of making the wrong decision, or afraid to go in a direction that is outside God’s will, refer back to our good and perfect instruction guide. Everything you need to know about what decisions to make and how to live are already provided to you. It’s not as complicated as you think. You have the freedom to choose. (read: you have the freedom to choose!!)

Love,

someone who knows exactly how you feel

 

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2016 has been a disaster

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This is the current joke running through the Internet right now- that 2016 has been a disaster. Thank God this year is over, let’s hope 2017 is better. People of the world have seemingly automatically agreed that this entire calendar year has just been catastrophic for the general human population. I realize that this year has held challenges- political decisions, the media, court rulings, riots, police shootings, terrorism, several well-loved celebrities passing away, and not to mention the presidential election that nearly tore our country apart.

Yet despite all this, I cannot latch on to the claim that “2016 has been a disaster for me”. I have laughed, I have loved, I have hugged, held, and been shown miraculous grace to have even lived another 365 days. That’s far from disaster.

We’ve absolutely had major issues this year, not only in our country but across the world. People are angry, and bitter and self-centered. Politicians are dishonest. Foreign terrors are real. Our country is incredibly divided in every way. From my point of view, the values of our society are quickly spiraling downward.

However, my life in 2016- or any other year for that matter- is far from disaster. I have a family that loves me. I have a roof over my head. I’ve formed new relationships and sustained old ones.

I’ve spent another 365 days with God watching over me and Jesus by my side.

I’ve lived through 365 opportunities to praise God for His love and mercy.

365 opportunities to spread love.

365 opportunities to live in joy.

I didn’t succeed everyday- there were several days I wasn’t praising God and I wasn’t living in joy.

But I still had the opportunity. That alone is enough to be thankful for. That alone is worthy of praise. The fact that I was even given another year to live is more than what I deserve.

The problems in the world will not define the happiness of my life.

The government officials elected, the court rulings, the opinions of the media and whatever else do not determine whether or not I am I living a happy, successful life.

Your happy, successful life is determined by what you do with what God has given you- whether it seems like a little or a lot. It’s defined by what you do with the people he placed in your life, the opportunities, the challenges, and even material blessings. The success of your life cannot be determined by things you cannot control. Whether or not 2016 was a success cannot be determined by what the world was doing around you, instead it should be defined by what God was doing within you. Do not throw away an entire year because things happen that are outside your control. This life we live on Earth has so many challenges, but because we live under God’s grace and love, it also has so many gifts.

With that being said, enter 2017 with the same outlook. You are about to embark on a 365 day journey filled with opportunities and people that can be part of God’s plan for you. You are about to be given another year to praise God and to live under his miraculous mercy and grace. You are about to receive more chances to grow into the child of God that you were designed to be. There will be struggles, and things will happen that you wish you could change, but don’t be surprised when you face heartache and disappointment. That’s to be expected, because we live in a broken world. But don’t discredit the blessings you receive because you’re too focused on the brokenness that you can’t control. Contentment in your life doesn’t come from outside circumstances, it comes from the peace and joy God has placed in your heart.

You have no idea what blessings and opportunities will unfold in 2017. And no matter what trials and struggles you find in this year, God can carry you farther.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

The workings of God within your heart are infinitely more important than the workings of heartache in the world.

 

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